Yeah, about that.
I'm going to tell you right now, being an Au Pair is hard. I ended up coming home about three months earlier than planned, mostly because of sick relatives. There were also a few things I now know and would like to pass on to others that are thinking about becoming an Au Pair. Ready? Alright.
Seriously Follow These If You Actually Want to Have a Decent Time in Whatever Country You Go to.
- Make sure you actually like kids.
- This sounds ridiculous, I know. But you'd be surprised at how many people (me and my best friend while there) didn't actually like kids. While I became pretty fond of the boys I was looking after, they still pissed me off the majority of the time. So. If you want to travel, but don't like kids, maybe think of taking a bar job somewhere, or maybe housekeeping at a hotel if you can't speak the language.
- Make sure you have a set schedule, try to get the weekends off.
- While my weekdays were pretty set (Mondays off, Tuesday-Friday clean in the mornings, pick up the kids from Kindergarten in the afternoon) my weekends could be hell. My host parents did tandem cycling and raced, so they could be out for hours at a time cycling and I wouldn't know when they would be home, so I couldn't make plans.
- It's hard being an introvert in a foreign country, especially when your host family are extroverts.
- It's not impossible, but it's fucking hard. My host family eventually realised I needed my time to recharge and hide in my bedroom for a bit, which was good. But finding friends makes being an introvert in a foreign country extremely hard. My first experience trying to make friends happened in an Au Pair club (by which I mean, a basement of a house turned office bulding) in a slightly sketchy area of Nürnberg. No one spoke English, people tried, but I couldn't speak German (I still can't, by the way, so don't ask) and eventually I just tuned out and we all went for ice cream. Thankfully the next week, the English girl they were telling me about came to the club and we became friends, and still are friends. I think I'll rehash some of the more ridiculous nights in different blog posts.
- If you don't like your host family, leave.
- This wasn't a huge problem for me. I had times where I hated my host family, but I also had times where I loved them. We ate chocolate, drank wine and watched movies, but also I had little time for myself. My English friend had a very hard time with her host family, she had less of a work load than I did, but she also didn't get along with her host family nearly as well. For her, it ended up escalating so badly that she was kicked out and had to stay at my ex boyfriend's apartment until she found a place. There's no point in being in a place that makes you uncomfortable.
- Only bring one (large) piece of luggage.
- This is important. If you need to leave fast, or need to take train to the airport (which I did) it makes traveling MUCH easier.
That's really all I can think of for now. If you have any questions, feel free to ask.